I'm in a pissy mood today and it's a dangerous thing. This pissy mood is brought on by a person that I need to work with on various volunteer items. Without details, this person basically told me that what I need is better time management so I can fulfill my duties better since becoming a mother and that they are tired of the baby trump card. &^$%&#*$!!

I say dangerous because I've been waiting for years to be brought into the battle between the childless and parents. I'm not a parent who thinks I should be let off scot-free from any duties, paid or unpaid, but I do think that certain allowances need to be made. Flextime with duties so to speak. If I can't make an event, let me work harder to publicize. If I can't make a meeting, let me send in my ideas beforehand.

I know that working with a parent can often change the scope of duties for a partner. My work partner seems to be handling it well. But she also gets to reap the benefits of flex-time. When she was moving to a new home, she took off early or came in late without repercussions. She merely made up the time later.

I've been prepping for this war for years. I'm ready and armed. No one calls my daughter a trump card. I have a life, a family, and responsiblities. I balance all the best I can. Being a mother shouldn't make me any less commited than the childless person next to me. Also making every single event doesn't prove that you're more commited than someone else. Just that you're ignoring other things in life better. If X is going to be your whole life, that's fine. Just don't make me feel like it has to be mine.