I'm in the 2% club!

According to a Chicago Tribune article and the Ms. Magazine blog, only 2% of women who marry keep their last name. About 10 % use both last names. I didn't realize I was such a freak! *giggle*

But it kinda explains how I've been getting cards in the mail from friends of the hubby (FoH's) addressed to Mrs. Roni ### and not to Ms. Roni ***. It's not a real big deal to me, unless someone who should know better does it. *That* tweaks me. One of my mom's cousin's called me last night & asked for my address. She then asked, it's ### right? I said, "that's the hubby's name, I didn't change mine." She was kinda in shock...not a bad shock thou. She had just never written to me before so it was a new thing. *giggle* That's me...always blowing someone's mind.

So why didn't I change my name? Well not for this reason: Chicagoan Alison Hefele Bonney agrees. "Not changing your name signifies ambivalence about the marriage. Changing your name is like, `I want to do this,'" she said.

While I freely state that getting married was scary and I've always had a sense of doom about it. It's just the way I try to protect myself about life. That's a Cubs fan for ya...*smirk*

I kept my name because I felt that I had already accomplished a lot in my short life (we married when I was 24) and that I needed to keep it. It was my identity. I also have a fairly weird last name and it finally felt comfy to me. So why change it?

Now that Paris is coming along, some are asking if I'll change now. Why? Cause Paris will be using the hubby's last name. Any kids after Paris will also use his last name. Sure, I'd like a double last name for them, but it's one of those things that we discussed and I didn't 'win'.

As Kat said over the weekend, our kids will have a hard enough time growing up with the two of us as parents. One's a liberal, feminist, pagan and the other is a more conservative feminist Catholic. Our kids will be brought up in both traditions - a kinda Catholic Paganism if you will. Having to learn 2 last names and correct people all the time would be too much ask my lil ones right now. Heck, it'll be hard to be my kid, dontcha think? Oh, well.